Hi, so I posted a few days ago about an incident at my new job, I got told off by the office boss over a little thing and we talked and left it at that, although I was anxious afterwards. I quite like that guy, he's reasonable, but firm, he handles these things pretty well. However, as I've been settling into the job, I've started to seriously dislike the guys who work under him but above me as supervisors. They just seem to be deliberately unpleasant. So today, I was 4 minutes late back from lunch as I had to take my medication and the watercooler is way over the other side of the building. Everyone was already back in the office when I got back so I was already anxious as all hell. So I walked back into the office nearly panicking, and immediately, one of them turns towards me from his desk which I have to walk past to get to my desk and just stares at me as I walk past. I was actually a little angry, I just thought "If you have something to say, don't stare me down, just say it!", so I mustered up the courage to just smile and say "is something wrong?". He still didn't say anything. I had to ask again before I got any response, even then it was from the other supervisor next to him. He just said "Are you just getting back from lunch?" I said yes. The first guy just kept staring at me. The second guy just said "Watch your time please." and went back to work, leaving me to walk away awkwardly.
Was there really any need for them to behave like that?? Hell, if I was a supervisor, and one of the people working under me came back 4 minutes late from lunch I literally wouldn't care! I might crack a joke while letting them know they need to be more prompt, like "Hey! Nice of you join us!", then smile and laugh it off. Especially if they were new, I'd cut them some slack, you don't know everyone's situation after all. It seems like these guys are just looking for opportunities to intimidate people or make them anxious. That's just not on. Just because someone works under you isn't an excuse to intimidate them and hang swords over them. Obviously if someone is repeatedly late, then it's an issue, but it was one time, and they acted that way. Surely it's a poor way to run a business to make the people who work under you nervous about you?
There's just something about this company I don't like. It's like everyone there seems to live in fear of the supervisors. I find it difficult to like people at the best of times, but I especially don't like people who intimidate other people.
However, the larger problem lies in how I respond to these kinds of situations. I've been a problem drinker for a long time, and when I get tense in situations like these at work, my default response is to drink a lot when I get home to forget about it. That's no good, and I don't need supervisors behaving this way, it really doesn't help, I need the people working about me to be firm, of course, but I need them to be supportive and amiable, especially to a new employee. Otherwise the temptation creeps in, and, although I'm really no different when I drink to when I'm sober (except I'm far more relaxed), so it doesn't affect my reputation or behaviour, it's not good for me! This is a bad habit that I'm usually very good at keeping off of, but it seems like people who manage others sometimes don't consider the effect they have on people, even ones they don't really know. I have no intention of falling off the wagon, it's just new job anxiety, but how do I deal with these people?? I can't rely on booze, that's no solution, just a temporary patch. Has anyone got any tips on how to respond to overbearing supervisors?