had a terribble shock,could do with some good vibe

[Paddington]

hi every one,i haven't been on the forum for a week as we,as a family,had a shocking death to deal with[still reeling to be honest]i wasn't ready to ask for help,but feel as i am usually on here all the time i owed you all an explanation!I have a couple of BIG things to deal with ,1st,i have to drive to my son's flat next monday[i have moderate agoraphobia,and panic when driving]so i am going to do it but need allyor good vibes please[^]Any tips on driving phobia would be appreciated too!This wednesday i have to go into town[not alone,but still nervous:(]so again VIBES PLEASE.Thanks 4 ur support,Alex and Dawn,and WELL DONE ALEX for going to the reception,you are my inspiration girl,fab news.love to everyone,Mary-Rose.xxxxxxxxxxxxx

we are all in the same boat and can guide each other ashore

[tnt808]

Mary,

I am sorry to hear of the tragedy you have been dealing with.

I don't have driving phobia..but have a mild case of agoraphobia. I know that you can do it. If you can focus on the task at hand you will be able to get through it. Maybe thinking of the end result will help you out some.

Sending you lotsa good driving vibes.

Good luck,
Tina

[Karen]

Hi Mary

Sorry to learn of the family tragedy and our thoughts are with you at this time.

Regarding the driving phobia these posts may help:

CBT therapy for driving problems - my diary (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7162)
Hi new member mom w/ panic and dp/dr (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1239)
Driving (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=6038)
driving phobia (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=5105)
Hi, I am new and need re-assurance (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=6527)
Panic - When driving (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=6631)
Panic attacks while driving (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7291)

Also on the website there are some coping techniques:
How to cope with Panic Attacks, Anxiety, Phobias and OCD (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/NMPcms.php?nmppage=coping)



Karen



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[Alexandra]

Hi Mary

Always here for you hun you know you can txt as well as pm anytime.

Thinking of you & Chris

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Take Care


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[lisarose]

Hi Mary rose, Sorry to hear about your loss and hope we can all help you through it. I am sure you will be fine with the trip to town and your son's flat but I know how you feel as I suffered from agorophobia because of panic attacks for about 12 months, I don't drive but couldn't use public transport or go shopping. With the help of my mum and partner I just took small steps each day and as long as someone was with me I was o.k until eventually I could face doing it alone and each time got easier. Can someone be with you when you drive to your son's flat? Have you tried bach rescue remedy I find it helps me if I feel particularly nervous about something. I don't have to use it alot now but always take it in my handbag wherever I go.
Good luck and hope it goes well. Stay positive and I'm sure you will get through this tough time.
Take care
Love Lisax

[feege]

((((((MARYROSE))))))

I am so sorry to hear you are going through such a terrible time.

You have all the positive vibes I can muster - you will get through this and we will all be here to support you. Somehow you get through these times partly on autopilot and because you have to and you will probably surprise yourself at how well you cope.

Loads and loads of love xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Fee xxxxxx
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Good and bad things WILL happen!

[Paddington]

thanks you guys,it has helped to share[i was cutting myself off again ,sooo easy to do aye?]Lisarose,thanx 4 the tips.I dont find rescue remady much help BUTi do use mimulus[for fear]and thatis good.i dont have anyone to go withme to the flat,so maybe this is a challenge i need?well i'll kep u all posted thanks 4 all the vibes,luv mary-rose.xxxxxxxxxx

we are all in the same boat and can guide each other ashore

[Paddington]

thank you Nigel,you are so right about seeing the positive,i am rehearsing in my mind too[why is it easier to 'see' disaster than a good outcome?????]I will persavere tho'.Thank you for the vibes too,it's a sad time and shock is an awful feeling to absorb[feels like a PA but i know this is a genuine reaction to a terrible thing.]i shall go into my garden,realand imagined and absorb all the good vibes.Than you,love mary-rose.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

we are all in the same boat and can guide each other ashore