jude uk
12-10-09, 22:28
One of the main issues with socializing is having the ability to have a conversation on a wide variety of subjects. I believe that most who have a social phobia find it difficult to talk because of this reason and because of this, the social phobia becomes all consuming.
Thoughts that may come;
People dont like me because,
I have nothing to say
I dont like myself
I think others are more interesting than me
So for the most part those with a social phobia retreat more and more into themselves and that downward spiral becomes more difficult to over-come but it can be over-come.
When I was in a therapy group I was asked to say something about myself in front of the others in the group and this is what I can recall of what I said.
I suffer from panic attacks
I suffer from anxiety
I suffer from agoraphobia
I dont like being in groups
I find it hard to talk etc etc
Now no one said what I had to say or what the others had to say but the one thing that we all had in common was we only told about what we suffered from. We never said that we liked golf, or enjoyed music or liked sci-fi movies etc.
What the therapy group brought out was, we are more than just our problems. Okay its a small twist on how we feel but the aim was to see that our problems are just a small part of our lives and there is a lot more to each one of us.
Sometime ago I bought a book called HOW TO TALK TO ANYONE!
The author is Leil Lowndes and its a book I would recommend everyone to read.
Thoughts that may come;
People dont like me because,
I have nothing to say
I dont like myself
I think others are more interesting than me
So for the most part those with a social phobia retreat more and more into themselves and that downward spiral becomes more difficult to over-come but it can be over-come.
When I was in a therapy group I was asked to say something about myself in front of the others in the group and this is what I can recall of what I said.
I suffer from panic attacks
I suffer from anxiety
I suffer from agoraphobia
I dont like being in groups
I find it hard to talk etc etc
Now no one said what I had to say or what the others had to say but the one thing that we all had in common was we only told about what we suffered from. We never said that we liked golf, or enjoyed music or liked sci-fi movies etc.
What the therapy group brought out was, we are more than just our problems. Okay its a small twist on how we feel but the aim was to see that our problems are just a small part of our lives and there is a lot more to each one of us.
Sometime ago I bought a book called HOW TO TALK TO ANYONE!
The author is Leil Lowndes and its a book I would recommend everyone to read.