Inanna
20-11-16, 23:03
Hi all
I was in a relationship with a guy for about 4 years. We had some unprotected sex in the first couple of years, but then he admitted to me that he had had a brief fling with a woman, who was English, but worked and lived in Namibia (before he knew me).
Well, this sent my HA into orbit. I had several tests, and insisted that he used a condom ( he said he only had protected sex with this other woman, as she was so aware of HIV, living in Africa) from then on in.
The last test was July 15. However, there were a couple of times when he didn't put one on, before entering me (sorry, :blush:), but within a minute I managed to get him to stop. No ejaculation or anything.
We broke up, mostly because I didn't feel trust (he knew I didn't want to have sex without a condom, but he still tried to). The last time we were together was about May 16.
Since September I have had 3 colds/sore throats./coughs. I also have conjunctivitis. So I decided to get retested.
I rang the results line, and it sounds like it is saying HIV - negative. However, the tone is different, and I can't quite believe it. I have listened to it about 10 times, and it sounds like negative, but I am frightened to believe it. should I ring and ask to speak to an actual nurse to confirm?
As it has been over 3 months, is that test conclusive?
Why can't I believe it? I feel so guilty for having a relationship with this man (he wasn't married or anything, but I still feel like I have been a bad person). I feel guilty for having trusted him.
I am not sure what I am asking here, if anything. Maybe just looking for some reassurance.
Thank you for reading.
I was in a relationship with a guy for about 4 years. We had some unprotected sex in the first couple of years, but then he admitted to me that he had had a brief fling with a woman, who was English, but worked and lived in Namibia (before he knew me).
Well, this sent my HA into orbit. I had several tests, and insisted that he used a condom ( he said he only had protected sex with this other woman, as she was so aware of HIV, living in Africa) from then on in.
The last test was July 15. However, there were a couple of times when he didn't put one on, before entering me (sorry, :blush:), but within a minute I managed to get him to stop. No ejaculation or anything.
We broke up, mostly because I didn't feel trust (he knew I didn't want to have sex without a condom, but he still tried to). The last time we were together was about May 16.
Since September I have had 3 colds/sore throats./coughs. I also have conjunctivitis. So I decided to get retested.
I rang the results line, and it sounds like it is saying HIV - negative. However, the tone is different, and I can't quite believe it. I have listened to it about 10 times, and it sounds like negative, but I am frightened to believe it. should I ring and ask to speak to an actual nurse to confirm?
As it has been over 3 months, is that test conclusive?
Why can't I believe it? I feel so guilty for having a relationship with this man (he wasn't married or anything, but I still feel like I have been a bad person). I feel guilty for having trusted him.
I am not sure what I am asking here, if anything. Maybe just looking for some reassurance.
Thank you for reading.