sunset_5
13-08-16, 19:48
Hey all!
I was supposed to meet up with a friend today. We were texting last night to talk about when and where and I couldn't give her an exact time yet because I had some things to do beforehand. I asked her if it would be ok if I just let her know when I'm done and if she then could pick me up as I was in her area anyway. Then she said she actually wanted to take the bus and not the car, I acted a little surprised but it was no big deal and I said I can take the bus too or ask my parents to drive me to hers (personally I don't have a driver's license) but then she stopped replying.
This morning she said she got the text but didn't respond because she was a little shocked, because apparently I'd been aggressive in my texts. Then we had a whole long conversation via text where I tried to explain what I really meant but she just kept saying she felt offended by what I'd said. But I still don't see anything wrong except maybe my "exaggerated" surprise at her not wanting to take the car this time - but I never said it was a problem and she just insinuated I was mad at her and didn't want to meet up with her anymore when she doesn't come pick me up. And I never said that. She was also upset because I couldn't give her a time and just expected her to be ready when I am. I get that a little bit, but that was exceptional and usually we always schedule an exact time way in advance. So much for trying a little spontaneity.....
Conflicts like that are really huge triggers for my anxiety and it just makes me want to hide somewhere because now I feel like she will forever be judgmental about that, feel like she won't talk to me anymore, but at the same time, I am usually the one who comes creeping back and apologises to people, even when I'm not wrong.
But I've just felt so extremely anxious again since this happened this morning and I just can't seem to let it go.
Any advice? Am I exaggerating? I don't know what to do... :weep:
I was supposed to meet up with a friend today. We were texting last night to talk about when and where and I couldn't give her an exact time yet because I had some things to do beforehand. I asked her if it would be ok if I just let her know when I'm done and if she then could pick me up as I was in her area anyway. Then she said she actually wanted to take the bus and not the car, I acted a little surprised but it was no big deal and I said I can take the bus too or ask my parents to drive me to hers (personally I don't have a driver's license) but then she stopped replying.
This morning she said she got the text but didn't respond because she was a little shocked, because apparently I'd been aggressive in my texts. Then we had a whole long conversation via text where I tried to explain what I really meant but she just kept saying she felt offended by what I'd said. But I still don't see anything wrong except maybe my "exaggerated" surprise at her not wanting to take the car this time - but I never said it was a problem and she just insinuated I was mad at her and didn't want to meet up with her anymore when she doesn't come pick me up. And I never said that. She was also upset because I couldn't give her a time and just expected her to be ready when I am. I get that a little bit, but that was exceptional and usually we always schedule an exact time way in advance. So much for trying a little spontaneity.....
Conflicts like that are really huge triggers for my anxiety and it just makes me want to hide somewhere because now I feel like she will forever be judgmental about that, feel like she won't talk to me anymore, but at the same time, I am usually the one who comes creeping back and apologises to people, even when I'm not wrong.
But I've just felt so extremely anxious again since this happened this morning and I just can't seem to let it go.
Any advice? Am I exaggerating? I don't know what to do... :weep: