br19893
05-05-12, 22:46
I know this doesn't have a lot to do with anxiety but I couldn't think of anywhere else to write it. My dad drinks every night but only 2 or 3 cans, he has a full time job so I guess iv never worried about his drinking. Recently he's become more depressed and very negative. On a weeknight like I said he doesn't get drunk but he's very dependent on drink (cant go a night without it) however its when he goes out with his friends which is when I worry. I wait up for him because my anxiety makes me think the worst of every situation. Today he's been out since 12 in the afternoon and his phone wasn't ringing so iv spent all day worrying about him. Now he's come home fallen through thw door shouting very loudly and swearing that I'd turned the heating on. He came in the room where i was sat on the sofa and threw a jumper at me which was on his side. He didn't do it in a playful way either the zip hit me in the face.
It's hard for me cos I used to get on so well with my dad and now he's just depressed, disinterested in anything I have to say and gets really embarrassingly drunk when he goes out.
I live with him and my twin brother, I'm an 18 year old female. Il be moving out in September and am really worried to leave him and my brother cos i kind of hold the house together (him and my brother argue every time they are left alone). I told my counsellor but all she said was that it will be good for me to leave the negativity, however il just Feel so guilty if things get worse and I know il worry about them a lot. I'm starting cbt next week but this situation is only gunna hold me back! How do I tackle this? My dads not an open person and we never talk about how we feel but I think its time he got some help for his depression before its too late. He's made passing comments about killing himself before too like "might just kill myself" he's not serious but why say it if it hadn't crossed his mind?
Sorry this is so long but even what iv wrote isn't enough to explain the whole situation! Does anyone have any advice on how I can get my dad to seriously see that he needs help and that he's developing a problem. I think his behaviour is a cry for help, its just hard to make the first step to talk to him about it. Thanks in advance x
It's hard for me cos I used to get on so well with my dad and now he's just depressed, disinterested in anything I have to say and gets really embarrassingly drunk when he goes out.
I live with him and my twin brother, I'm an 18 year old female. Il be moving out in September and am really worried to leave him and my brother cos i kind of hold the house together (him and my brother argue every time they are left alone). I told my counsellor but all she said was that it will be good for me to leave the negativity, however il just Feel so guilty if things get worse and I know il worry about them a lot. I'm starting cbt next week but this situation is only gunna hold me back! How do I tackle this? My dads not an open person and we never talk about how we feel but I think its time he got some help for his depression before its too late. He's made passing comments about killing himself before too like "might just kill myself" he's not serious but why say it if it hadn't crossed his mind?
Sorry this is so long but even what iv wrote isn't enough to explain the whole situation! Does anyone have any advice on how I can get my dad to seriously see that he needs help and that he's developing a problem. I think his behaviour is a cry for help, its just hard to make the first step to talk to him about it. Thanks in advance x