br19893
02-04-12, 11:21
I have been best friends with a girl for about 5 years, I was very close with her and her family, her mum used to call me her long lost daughter. As we'v grown up (shes 19 I'm 18) I've realised that we've grown into completely different people. She's always been spoilt, her uncle bought her a car and paid for all of her driving lessons, however she never used to act spoilt and was very down to earth. I'm the opposite of her, my parents have never given me money but it never came between us before.
A few years ago she did an apprenticeship while I was at sixth form, afterwards she got a job that pays very well meanwhile I'm still in education and have only got time for a minimum wage part time job.
This is when she started to change, always going on about how much money she has and saying how good her life is. She also only gets with guys who have a lot of money and will spoil her. Whereas I started to suffer from anxiety and didn't want to get a new job because of it. She'd call me lazy and always look down on me, not to mention that when o tried to tell her I had anxiety she completely ignored me!
She would put me down in front of others insultiong my hair, makeup, what I was wearing! Eventually I couldn't take anymore of her self involvement and constant insults so I just stopped talking to her. She spent a lot of time with her boyfriend anyway so t first she didn't try to talk to me for a few weeks. But then she texted me asking how I was as if nothing was wrong. I text back and we had a bit of a catch up, but that was it. Except on saturday night it was my friends birthday and we all went out, i got a text from her yesterday saying that she saw the pictures on Facebook and would like an invite next time because she misses everyone.
Now I definatley don't want her to feel like she has no friends and u still care about hee but I don't want to get close again. I know iv handled this wrong and I should of told get straight away how I feel, but I hate confrontation! How do I go about handling this from here without seeming childish about it?
Has anyone else ever felt it was the right time to phase out a friendship? Am I a bad person for doing it?
Thanks in advance for your replies :)
A few years ago she did an apprenticeship while I was at sixth form, afterwards she got a job that pays very well meanwhile I'm still in education and have only got time for a minimum wage part time job.
This is when she started to change, always going on about how much money she has and saying how good her life is. She also only gets with guys who have a lot of money and will spoil her. Whereas I started to suffer from anxiety and didn't want to get a new job because of it. She'd call me lazy and always look down on me, not to mention that when o tried to tell her I had anxiety she completely ignored me!
She would put me down in front of others insultiong my hair, makeup, what I was wearing! Eventually I couldn't take anymore of her self involvement and constant insults so I just stopped talking to her. She spent a lot of time with her boyfriend anyway so t first she didn't try to talk to me for a few weeks. But then she texted me asking how I was as if nothing was wrong. I text back and we had a bit of a catch up, but that was it. Except on saturday night it was my friends birthday and we all went out, i got a text from her yesterday saying that she saw the pictures on Facebook and would like an invite next time because she misses everyone.
Now I definatley don't want her to feel like she has no friends and u still care about hee but I don't want to get close again. I know iv handled this wrong and I should of told get straight away how I feel, but I hate confrontation! How do I go about handling this from here without seeming childish about it?
Has anyone else ever felt it was the right time to phase out a friendship? Am I a bad person for doing it?
Thanks in advance for your replies :)